Increasing self-value with Empower Counseling in Birmingham, Alabama
Why is self-value so important?
Self-Value affects every aspect of life…that is why.
How we value ourselves determines what we think we deserve. How we value ourselves affects how we let other people treat us. How we value ourselves affects how we take care of our minds, as well as, our bodies.
I have so many clients come into my office at Empower Counseling wondering why they are not ever treated with the same kindness, consideration and respect that they show others. They just can’y understand it. In their eyes they are doing all of the “right” things, treating others the way they want to be treated. But they never seem to get the results they want within their relationships.
It comes down to self-value and boundaries…more about this in a minute.
I also have many clients who come in the door who say, I want to exercise more and I want to eat healthier. But they just never seem to be able to do these things that are important to them. Why is this?
It comes down to self-value and boundaries again.
We all have determined our own self-value from the experiences we have had throughout life and the interactions we have had with others. There are many variables that contribute to either high self-value or low-self value.
Maybe as a little girl you were taught that to care for yourself is selfish. Maybe you were taught or somehow learned that women must ALWAYS put others’ needs first. Maybe you learned that the best daughters, wives, and mothers spend all of their time and energy focusing on how they can help everyone in their lives go out and live their best lives, forgetting about yourself along the way. It is so easy to do…
Maybe as a man, you learned to equate your self-value with your ability to provide for your family.
Maybe you learned the value of the roles you play, rather than the person you are.
If you have low self-value, you are not going to have the type of relationships you want in your life. You will never get what you give. When you have low self-value, you will pay attention to and care for every need of the other person in your relationship, never thinking about what you want and need. When you go all out meeting the needs of the other person in the relationship, you are teaching that person that he or she is more important to you than you are. By catering to every need, you are teaching the other person in the relationship that you will take whatever is left over. You are teaching that person to not think about or consider your needs, because you don’t.
Increasing self-value with Empower Counseling in Birmingham, Alabama.
If you are not enjoying the relationships you want to have and if you never seem to get to the actions you want to do – exercise, eat well, get a good night’s sleep, it is time to work on your self-value.
Kathryn with Empower Counseling in Birmingham, Alabama can help you go from a place to low self-esteem and low self-value to a place where you know your worth. Once, you know your true worth and value, Kathryn will help you develop and stick to the boundaries you need to have to keep your self-value where it must be for you to enjoy your relationships and take action in the parts of your life you want to change.
Empower Counseling offers Acceptance Commitment Therapy in-person or online for anxiety, depression, self-esteem issues, and difficult life transitions for professionals, young adults, college students and teens.
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